It’s May, Gentle Visitors, and I know I’ve been a terrible slacker hereabouts of late. I’m sorry… I really am… but for the most part all my time seems so darn sewn up these days between work and the final planning for our “Big Day”. It’s almost here…. just two weeks away and a wee bit more. So far, we’ve managed to get just about all our arrangements made and it’s looking good. Now we just have to pray that the weather holds up and gives us a break… (That’s right Rain… I’m talkin’ to you there… I can see your soggy lil’ butt trying to look all innocent… Don’t go pretending you can’t hear me. 🙂 )
Yeah. I know I had big plans for more disaster movie Apocalypse film reviews… but seeing as how all my personal time got gobbled up these last few weeks, I still have quite a few I just plain haven’t gotten to. OK then… there’s really only one thing to do. We’ll just extend our “End Of The World As We Know It” film review festival throughout May as well! There… that was easy. It’s good to be the “Magical Catgirl Princess” in charge ’round here when tough decisions like this need to be made, eh? 😉
Anyways… as long as I’ve got some moments away from my busy planning, I thought I might bring you all up to date on things with a quick “Diary” post. Nothing big… just a quick look at what’s what… So if you are up for it, o’ Gentle Visitor, follow along and let’s see how it’s all going.
Well. So now… let’s see. We’ve gotten just about everything down for our ceremony now. Can’t really believe how involved it’s all become. I mean… it’s just something we both kind of “made up” as we’ve gone along. Not being any sort of “official” thing, we’ve felt pretty darn free to do it as we wanted to, including some Traditional types of wedding elements and some stuff that we just plain made up that just felt “right”. I suppose there’s some sort of etiquette these days for a Lesbian wedding… but since neither of us really knows what those are… or even cares, really, how yet another group of total strangers thinks we ought to do it, we’ve put all that out of our minds and went our own way.
First we’ll do all the real “official” stuff. We’ve already paid our fees…. got our paperwork and marriage license ready… and the Monday before our personal ceremony we’ve got an appointment at the local courthouse to “solemnize” our marriage in front of the appropriate witnesses. I know…. sounds really romantic doesn’t it. That’s when we’ll be legally wed… but somehow it just won’t seem real, I don’t think, until Wednesday when we do our own lil’ thing….
Now… for the “Big Event”… As I’ve mentioned, we are going with the whole white wedding gowns look… It’s pretty… classy… and both of us grew up with the image of our future selves all decked out in fancy gowns like fairy tale princesses. Sure it’s hokey… but both of us soooo want to do it, even if neither blushing bride is… errr… ahhhh… exactly “virginal” anymore. It’s the idea and the image that count, right?
We’ve found some really beautiful veils to go with our gowns… and also I managed to find the absolutely prettiest headpiece to help hold my veil in place. All for an amazingly nice price too… Carolyn hasn’t seen it yet… as one of our quirky ideas was that each of us would work on our wardrobe for this without letting the other see any of it till the ceremony. Yes… yes… we’ve seen each others gowns already since they were originally part of our Halloween cosplay, but we’ve deliberately decided that we still wanted to sort of surprise the other somehow and so only our Maids of Honor (Sam for me and Sandra for Carolyn) are privy to the details, keeping in coordinated contact with each other to make certain we both are getting things right, but sworn not to spoil things for us.
Ahhhh… and our Maids of Honor. In our particular take on things, they’ve got lots more responsibilities than in your average wedding party. It’s they who will each be responsible for arranging for our bouquets… with Sam picking one for Carolyn, and Sandra picking mine. On the day of the ceremony, we’ll each be given them right before the vows, as a gift to symbolize our friendship with our new wife’s friends. This was Sandra’s lil’ contribution to our unconventional way of doing things, and something we both loved the idea of right from the first mention. It’s soooo sweet to think she wants me in her family as much as I know I want her as my sister-in-law.
Also… with Carolyn’s parents absent, I was really leery of having my father walk me… or even both of us to the front of the wedding party and “give me away”. I didn’t want to make Carolyn feel she was missing out on that. I’ll not have her remembering our first day as Wife and Wife as the day she was alone to face all our friends and my family… even if Sandra and her family are there for her. So… instead, each of us will enter from the side of the clearing we’ve chosen… out of sight of the other and blindfolded. At the right moment, our respective Maids of Honor will lead us together and then remove those blindfolds so we can see each other and exchange our vows.
Our vows… another personal thing. We’re each writing our own… to pledge our love and let the other know that we’re finally there. After all these years. I’ve been working on mine for a while now, and I’ve scrapped several drafts trying to get it right. You all know neurotic lil’ me… I’m over-thinking it as usual. I know what I want to say, but trying to come up with just the right ones has me nervy and anxious. I’ll get it right eventually… but I also know I’ll be tweaking it right up till the moment I’m ready to recite it. I’m just that kind of crazy…..
Yep… there won’t be any “official” person up there with us… but we will have both Sam and Sandra to back us up as well as Adam and Maddy on hand as Rings-bearer and Flower-girl respectively. Maddy’s job will be to wrangle those bouquets until it’s all over and Adam will have charge of our wedding bands until the vows are complete and we exchange them at the finale. Simple rings really… neither of us wanted anything gaudy, and so we’ll be exchanging matching simple silver bands. Silver… not gold… gold is for regular weddings, not fairy tale princess weddings. Trust me…. I’m a princess, so I know, Hehehe!!
There will be the traditional throwing of the bouquets…. especially since most of our close friends coming for the ceremony are women… and most are single. After that… it’s off to the reception for dinner and dancing and the making of merry. Sounds about right, eh?
There will be a honeymoon too, of course. Both of us want that as well, but we’ll have to put that off for a few weeks till we can arrange time to take a couple weeks away from our responsibilities and jobs. I sort of wanted to do it right away, but it’s just impossible right now. Oh, well… 😦
So that’s the most recent stuff. Hopefully I’ll get my next Apocalyptic review up tomorrow or the next… and until then, “Meow, meow, for now o’ Gentle Visitors!”